You may ask yourself, what is it that makes you happy? Is it a well-paying job or a loving partner for the rest of your life, or is it something else? Well, people nowadays run after materialistic things more than the things they are passionate about and will benefit them more shortly.
You must keep in mind that happiness cannot be bought, and it is in your mind, in your thoughts.
list of traits that only happy people have.
Investing in experiences, not things
Yes, the excitement and thrill before buying a new phone or a brand-new tailored suit can be overwhelming, but the happiness and satisfaction you get from that last for a very short term when compared to your entire life.
Your happiness fades away when that thing starts getting older and fades away in color or glamour.
When you invest in experiences, rather than materialistic things, you will notice that your happiness gained from it will last a lifetime, the way it happens with memories.
Not depending on external factors to find the happiness that is within
Most happy people do not depend on other people or things for their happiness. Yes, they do know how important having a healthy and stable relationship is and how important it is to have supportive people in their life, but they are not their only source of happiness, and nor is it materialistic things.
They know for real that depending on others, whether they are living and breathing, or they are merely things, is vague and is the cause of disappointments.
They love themselves for the person they are from, both inside and outside
Happy people are always comfortable in their bodies and love themselves for who they are from within. Thye doesn’t need someone to always tell them that they are great and acknowledge them every moment.
These people maintain their signature character traits even if people are against that and never show approval for them.
They make the most out of who and how they are and what they have, instead of accepting everything others say to them and terming it as weakness.
They know how to acknowledge themselves.
Some people want others to acknowledge them, and they get extra zeal and motivation when others appreciate them for their doings, and then some people acknowledge themselves for whatever they do and achieve.
This once again depicts that happier people are less dependent on others for their happiness and well-being and do everything by themselves, whether it be hustling or appreciating themselves after the hustle.
So, start by being emotionally independent and acknowledging every little thing about you.
They recognize failures as learning opportunities.
Even the biggest of billionaires did fail at least once in their lifetime. You don’t learn unless you see the wrong side of things and understand the correct way to approach and nail them.
Try recognizing every failure of yours as a new learning opportunity to become a better version of yourself. Failures are the foundation of success, and if you don’t fail, you will not understand the proper way of things, so acknowledge failures and never fear them.
They are more positive in every aspect of life.
You all have negativity around you, either in the form of negative people or just random negative thoughts arising in you due to certain bad incidents. Everyone faces negativity, and it is nothing unnatural, but the way happy people deal with it is completely different.
Yes, not everyone is one hundred percent positive at all moments, but happy people look for the positive counterparts of the negative aspects of life more often, and this is why they react so calmly and are so happy in reality.
They are more optimistic.
When you talk about being positive, you must talk about optimism, and that happy people are optimistic as well more than their peers at work or friends at school.
They don’t fear failures and do not accept the pessimistic thoughts and actions of others. When you are around these people, you can feel a ray of positivity lurking towards you.
These people never give up no matter how hard things get and never stop believing in themselves.
They do not procrastinate
Procrastination means having a lackadaisical attitude and leaving aside more important works for a later time just because you do not understand the importance of that and feel weary while doing it.
No matter how tired you feel, you must finish those important tasks on time and learn how to manage various aspects of your life and everything you do.
When you do not procrastinate, you suffer from anxiety and stress lesser as compared to others and increase your productivity, which in turn boosts your morale and happiness.
They do not have a perfectionist mentality.
Yes, it is good to have perfectionism in the things you do, but no one or nothing is perfect in this world, so why should you try to be. A perfectionist attitude can make you see things very differently and fear failures even more.
People start to find mistakes in everything in their day-to-day lives and get angry or frustrated more easily just because nothing is perfect, that is, the way they want them to be.
They are more social and outgoing.
This means that they are more friendly and polite with everyone around them. They have a set of manners, and they portray etiquette.
These people can mix easily with others, but this does not mean that they become very close with everyone they get to know; it is good to have healthy boundaries.
Also, these people are outgoing, which means they accept a lot of varied views and notions on things and do not judge people because of what their views and beliefs are. These people have a strong belief in inequality.
They do not go on demeaning others.
Everyone has quarrels and arguments, everyone faces hatred and jealousy, but that does not mean people go on degrading the one who has fought with them over an issue.
This is what happy people abide by. They do not go on extending the arguments with someone.
Even when they are not around these people, they do not demean them, firstly because the fight was with them, so why should they demean them in front of others, and secondly, it is a waste of time and energy.
They forgive others but never forget.
The happiest of people have this trait in common, just like those previous traits. They forgive people quickly, but this doesn’t mean they forget what happened to them.
This is also a secret to being happy. When you forgive others, you lessen a burden from your shoulders instantly, and you are no longer a part of a toxic issue that happened to you in the past. Also, it enables you to move on much quicker from any kind of unhealthy relationship.
They put effort into a relationship.
It is not only about being a good lover; it is also about being a good child, a good parent, a good brother/sister, a good friend, and so on.
Many times, in a relationship, you must be selfless and be the first one to even try sorting it out so that it stays intact, and efforts like these are what matter at the end of the day.
Happy people are ready to go the extra mile for their loved ones because they know that these people are a large reason for their happiness.
They invest time and money in themselves.
Another big reason why happy people, as the name suggests, are happier than the rest is they care for themselves as well and devote time for their well-being.
Being selfless in any relationship is good, but that too has limits, and you should not always be like that because the relationship will then become toxic. Happy people invest time and money in self-care and in doing the things they love and are good for their souls.
They work harder towards their goals.
Every person has a definite set of goals and ambitions which they want to achieve in life. It may be anything but one thing that is common for every goal you chase is that it requires hard work and enthusiasm.
You will notice that the happiest of people have gone through the toughest of phases in their lives, but they never gave up on their dreams or on their efforts to reach their milestones. The harder you strive for something, the sooner you get it, and the happier you are.
They are well-disciplined and mannered.
You will never get anywhere in your life until and unless you inculcate discipline in your everyday routine. This is what the happiest of people do so well; they are disciplined and have manners and etiquettes, which they never rule out.
They are polite with everyone around them and do not get heated up quickly when someone tries to bring them down. This also shows that they are intellectuals who know what they are and have confidence and faith in themselves.
They meditate regularly
One of the best ways, rather the best way to become more focused and attentive, is to meditate regularly. It is not something very hard to do, nor does it require a lot of time.
What meditation does is make you one with your inner self, and this enhances your focus and the ability to remain concentrated on a particular topic and not allow your mind to wander around other unimportant things while you are trying to focus.
They keep themselves physically fit and mentally alert
Exercising is not just about making yourself stronger and leaner; it is also about following a specific diet providing you with all the necessary nutrients and maintaining a healthy lifestyle which has many advantages.
The advantages include being physically fitter, having a great physique which makes you look good in every outfit, and also the nutrients are good for your overall health and makes you more focused and stable mentally.
Exercising also releases certain hormones which boost your happiness and well-being every time.
They are more grateful to others.
Expressing gratitude has loads of benefits, all of which provide you with happiness and joy. Gratefulness increases your sense of well-being and peace of mind. You must add gratitude to your everyday to-do list.
It allows you to feel more positive emotions, enjoy good experiences and relish them, and deal better with adversity.
It also benefits you by building stronger relationships and also by making you a better version of yourself. When you are grateful even to the tough phases of your life, you learn how to deal with setbacks better.
They are not jealous of others.
Jealousy kills happiness, and that is a proven fact. Studies have shown this time and time again that jealousy blinds people. Happiness cannot mutually coexist alongside jealousy.
The happier sections of society do not indulge themselves in jealousy of any sort, which makes them happier than the rest.
When you are jealous of others’ possessions, you tend to blind yourself from what you have. Instead of comparing yourself with others, start celebrating your success more often.
They are good at time management.
This is one of those traits which will help you in every phase of your life. When you learn how to manage time well and balance every aspect of your life, you will notice that you are seldom under stress.
You are not rude with others once again because you are away from any kind of stress. When you learn how to manage time well, you will figure out that you have more time for everything else, and everything falls into place quite effortlessly.
They are always open to criticism.
Constructive criticisms are good for everyone as they give you a chance to improve yourself and become a better version. Certain people behave so rudely when someone criticizes them or their work.
Happy people, on the other side, are always open to such criticisms as they feel these will help them to not make the same errors next time and also improve on themselves as a whole.
If you get angry easily when this happens, you seriously need to work on yourself to be happier like the happiest people out there.
From the above points, it can be concluded that the happiest people in the world have quite a few traits that stand out from the rest.
When someone incorporates those in their life, they too start their journey towards happiness, happiness regularly and not just sudden small phases of happiness only.